The term "growth" is widely used in my profession. Same with "authentic self", "achieving wellness/balance, clearing the toxicity" ect. When I see those posts in social media I have to stop myself from "cringing". I am 2 years shy of being in the alternative world for 30yrs. They say that to become an expert in a feild you must work it and study it for 10 years.... I'm 20 years past that yet we are STILL having the same conversations from 30years ago.
Thirty years ago, I was introduced to the world of "parasites". My mom had just gotten her microscope for doing live cell analysis. Back then we didn't know really what worked for what. The parasite and candida protocols were EASILY $500.00 with so many tinctures, supplements and gadgets such as coffee enemas, colonics, zappers, ion cleanses and so much more. At least seven to ten different products. Clients were always shocked to learn that they had parasites and it was an "easy visual" to show them to begin explaining cellular health. Then we could get into how their liver, heart, digestion, brain, hormones, kidneys, and so much more were working now that we had their undivided attention. Programs were anywhere from $2000.00 -$10000.00 on supplements alone. Now with so many advancments, and research, alternative becoming more main stream, more and more people becoming educated in their own health we have learned so much and now those parasite and candida cleanses are a fraction of a cost because we KNOW what works. When I see posts on "parasites/candida" and how other coaches and health providers are using this as a fear to encourage people to hire them and use their products I "cringe". I'll tell you a secret. EVERYONE has parasites and candida. No one is free of them. They are in our vegetables, our fruit, our protiens. They are in our complex carbs and grow plenty in our simple carbs. Where they get concerning is when they become "dominant and consist more than 30% in the body". We can see this in live cell analysis when it is done correctly. When I receive your Dried Urine Hormone test I can see how well the colon is working and I KNOW that when it is not working optimal then there will be a parasite and candida overload causing more pain, brain fog, fatigue, insomnia and so much more. I don't need you to go for a live cell test because I know how it all works together.
So many people ARE STUCK. They are stuck in the comparisson loop. They gaslight themselves that their life is not "as bad" as someone else's or they "hype themselves" into the thought of "cinderella loop". [If you had no bad luck you would have no luck, I didn't ask for this, nothing ever works out for me, no one has lived what I have had to live through." Gaslighting themselves.... Two examples are of two different people. The first, my brother inlaw. He recently had shoulder surgery and recovery is going to be months, not weeks. It was within the first week and I stopped by to drop some items off. He and I were talking and he made the comment "I look at you and what you went through and I think what I am going through is nothing...." I stopped him right there. Just because I was shattered from the hips down and now have titanium rods in all but one of my long bones including, plates and screws does not mean that other peoples pain is less. If you fall and break your arm, I AM NOT going to say "it doesn't hurt, you should try breaking your leg." Pain is pain. If I stub my toe, I don't say "that didn't hurt." NO it freakin still hurts regaurdless of what my past experience was. Another example was a recent client. Young girl who had a knee surgery and now has a pin. She is in the space where she needs to ask her body permission to touch it. Shes affraid of anyone touching her knee. I remember that. I remember sobbing in fear and pain when they would just come to dab and clean the stitches. I showed her my scar and said "I know where you are, and I promise I will not add to that." She once again, as I hear so many times said "mine is nothing like what you have been through...." STOP. Stop gaslighting and comparing. Stop thinking you should be stronger, more resiliant. No one has ever given you the tools to move past and actually learn to communicate with your pain so you can reduce it. Until now. This is what I teach clients to do in my coaching programs. Then there is the "cinderella loop". This one is harder for me. The people that are stuck in this loop are hard to coach but not impossible. This is a belief for them. Their whole lives have pages of evidence that this is true and can not be any different. These are daily habits that re-inforce this belief. I have had a complete house flood, my house burnt down. I've had an abusive childhood where I was. brought to the hospital multiple times. I've lived on food banks and welfare growing up. I've experienced financial abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse in my adult years. I am one of the "elders in my family" as all my grandparents and parents are now gone. My career and home were stripped from me because of a collision that was not my fault that took the life of my daughter.... I know that I could EASILY get trapped in this loop. This belief. However, when you accept coaching, when you open to ideas that life no matter what happens can be turned into good, THEN you break that loop. Then you start receiving blessings. I am NEVER one to say "life is happening for you not too you. I am NEVER one to say you mannifested the life you have because NO ONE asks for their trauma. I cringe at those phrases. Kids don't manifest abuse, poverty, starvation ect. What we learn from it, how we learn to pick ourselves up can make the difference between just surviving or thriving in life. Coaching can open that door for you. Its not going to be easy, its going to be uncomfortable but you can move out of either or both loops you find yourself in.
The term "growth, authentic self, clearing the toxicity" are just phrases that will get you to click. To buy into what they are saying. I however do not do that. Yes I believe that we need to remove the toxicity... but do we remove it or do we learn to move with it to create healing instead of avoiding? To be authentic selves, we must acknowledge who we are with a variety of people. We are different with different groups or individuals. Are we being inauthentic or do those individuals/groups bring a peice of us out to the front and is that peice beneficial or harmful. I'm different when I am one on one with my girls. Put me with my girls and my neices its a different dynamic. I am not being in authentic. I'm able to bring out another peice of myself that is enriching, playful, humerous and at times wise:). I never diminish what my family or clients are moving through. I will always validate them and praise them for what they have already achieved. I WILL always challenge, I WILL always lead you out from gaslighting yourself and I will ALWAYS hold you accountable and call it out when you get stuck in the "cinderella loop". I will ALWAYS treat the body as a whole and not just blame one thing such as parasites, gut health, digestion, toxic beliefs. You deserve a whole approach. Not partial. You deserve more than a decade of education. That is what my coaching and workshops teach. You are not in need of a bandaid. You are in need of a whole comprehensive approach that decades of knowledge can provide. Book your consult today.
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