Ok, the hog in me is coming out:). I am not a fan of New Years resolutions or claiming a word for the year…. Yet it amazes me that all these things still go on and trend…. Year after year… after year… after year.
In 2021 the statistics for those that were successful at keeping their New Year resolutions vs those who had not, was no different than any other year with very little difference between previous years…. Yet the majority of people still make them.
On average 25% of people one week after the year starts, have already forgotten what they set out to do, or decided that its too hard [aka exercise, diet/lifestyle change, curbing their addictions, impulses etc]
One month…. February… for majority, the hardest month because they are so sick of winter, Christmas bills still being paid, coldest time of the year typically [Western Canada January and February are typically the coldest months of the year here… ] Another eleven percent also fall away from their commitment for the year.
Six months later, in June, days are long, sun is out and the weather that we have all been looking forward to is finally here to enjoy. Bike riding, lake excursions, sun tanning, golfing, tennis, whatever your pleasure, it’s just easier to do…. Yet there is another drop of success by another twenty-five percent! That means only fifty-four percent of people are still staying true to their goals.
With digression not ceasing, by the time another year comes to an end only nine percent of people who have set out with new goals have been successful and ready to make new ones to keep unleveling themselves.
On the other side of that people choose words.... Words are powerful. Joy, hope, appreciation, health, success, abundance, resilience, bravery. This is all great intention but by choosing words, we are also choosing the later. We have to be prepared to experience the opposite so that we can truly understand what our word actually means. Joy = Dispair. Hope = Desperation. Appreciation = Ungrateful. Health = Dis-ease. Success = Failure. Abundance = Scarce. Resilience = inadequacy . Bravery = Fear. Wealth = Poverty. Words are powerful no matter what. Are you prepared to take on what that word truly means?
Why do we make them, why do we even try? Well, for one, they offer hope. To quote Anne of Green Gables [cause who doesn’t love the Canadian red head]. “Tomorrow is a new day, with no mistakes in it”. So many people have hope that “this time, the year will be different. This year, you’re going to stick to it. This time, you are going to do what it takes no matter what.” Whether its parenting, relationships, finances, career. The non success of New Years Resolutions/Words does not discriminate and when another year comes to an end and the NINETY-ONE PERCENT of people who have failed, look back with regret. They criticize, and punish themselves. Whether it’s talking negatively, restricting themselves, they have feelings of anger, frustration, sadness at another year lost with no change.
What if I said these emotions have a positive intention? You see I do not believe it “negative vibration” emotions. I believe that these emotions are a signal to us from our body/mind/soul that change needs to happen. The problem is not the New Years Resolution/word. That is not what is causing the failure. You are not setting the bar too high for yourself. The problem is, you are not knowing your true reason for wanting the change. The reason you're telling yourself is just the superficial layer…. The real reason lies deep within you and without asking yourself the right questions in the right order, it is Ninety-One percent the reason why you have not been able to stick to a resolution and why you keep beating yourself up.
In coaching we have a saying. “What are you willing to let go of, or do differently in order to achieve the change you want?” These are two very important questions. Simple, but they start the unlayering of “why you want what you want”. These questions can also be very “threatening”. We as humans don’t want to have to give up ANYTHING that we are used to doing/having. It is actually engrained in us not to want to give up anything. It is the brains way of surviving, by sticking to the old ways. By sticking to what “has worked” so far. When we start to implement changes, our brain goes into panic, often we are in fight or flight when we start with these changes and we don’t even realize it. THIS is why most resolutions die off. THIS is why Ninety-one percent fail. Not because you are weak, or incapable, but because your brain is trying to get you to go back to what feels “normal”
Okay, so now you know that you are literally “wired” not to want change. To not want to give up things you are used to in life [even if you have a good reason for it]. Can you see now why maybe the nine percent are successful? Those nine percent align themselves with people and environments that will keep them accountable. That inspire them to keep going because those people have been successful themselves. In the corporate world, we often refer that to the rat race. Who is going to be the best, who can get the promotion…. Same with sports. Even coaching…. When you surround yourself with people who want to reach the same goals as you, who have exceeded the goals you have set for yourself and are there to help YOU succeed no matter what… That is the start of a beautiful story. It doesn’t stop there though. Those people will also push you when you don’t want to be pushed. They will call you out on your “inability to achieve” when you are slacking, they will sometimes ask “why are you doing that, when your attention should be over here?” They will make you uncomfortable, they will make you cry with relief, they will push you to move through your fear of the unknown They will even make you angry at times. Doctors have a saying “Doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results is a form of insanity” When you keep the exact same company expecting to be successful….what are you doing that for?
This last year I have had many challenges/obstacles we like to call them. My slogan has been “everything is figuroutable”. Stollen from an amazing inspirational speaker I heard, but I can not for the life of me remember the amazing woman’s name. [Just know I am not the one who came up with that phase… I stolled it:)]. I have had to change my circle. I have had to double down with some and let go of others…. I have had to be fluid and accepting of the changes…. Not to say there hasn’t been some “great” emotions with those changes as more loss has occurred…. So my question to you is, “what are you willing to let go of in order to see the change that you want? Why is that important? How will that affect your children/significant other? What will happen then?” There are so many other questions that I would ask, to help you get to the real reason why you want the change that is hidden in your mind that you do not even know is there. It is asking the questions in the right order, in the right way.
If you missed it, I am hosting an inperson event called Back to you: New year New Beginnings @ free spirit ranch
This event is designed to set you up for success. Reducing body pain, giving you currated information to begin reclaiming your body, mind and spirit. Early bird tickets end January 2 @ 12:00am. If you are ready to FINALLY be successful. To create a team around you that will help you every step of the way, to not let you give up on yourself then this event is for you. Register today and say yes to yourself. Don't let another year go by without change.
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Jodi Harty Board Certified Drugless practioner, Board certified Hormone Coach, CLC, CHC, Reiki Master, CST2, SER1
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